My hope for writing about these tracks is to give the average listener
a peek behind the curtain, but not to tear the whole curtain down. I’m
a detail-oriented person by nature, so I’ll try to change my ways for this
Is there a building in your town that you go past regularly, and you think
to yourself, “What a dump! How is that business still surviving?” Every
time you drive by it, the same thoughts come to mind. After many months
or even years, you cave in and decide to check it out. Once you step foot
inside, your bitter thoughts vanish, and turn to regret. You wish you would
have gone in earlier. It’s great! What a diamond in the rough!
Or maybe you experienced the opposite, where you thought something
was going to be gem, and it turned out to be a bag of coal.
Relationships can be the same way. You meet someone and gather your
first impressions. Those impressions expand and change over the next few
months, and after years of knowing that person those impressions will be
confirmed or repealed. Those impressions have been transformed along the
way into character traits, at least in your mind.
If the other person knows themselves at all, they know the highs and lows
of their character. With technology and the way relationships are managed
these days, we can easily leave people in the “impression zone” for a much
longer period of time before texting and social media came along. We’ve all
been informally trained in PR, marketing, sales, and photoshop. Our best
foot is always forward, and our blemishes have been clicked away with the
What happens if we slip? What happens if we face plant it, and we miss a
spot? How will people respond with the ugly truth of who we are? Will they cast
us out? Will we continue to be friends, dating, or whatever the relationship
may be? We’re going to have to end the relationship. Won’t we?
This is romantic love. The idealized kind of love we read about and see in the
movies. The kind where you feel good all the time. What if love is hard though?
What if we disagree more than we delight? How can love continue?
I would argue that these are the times when love is truly shown. It’s
not hard to love someone when they make you laugh, give you gifts, are easy
to talk to, and always see eye-to-eye. You can easily say, “I love you.” Do you
really love them, or do you just love the feeling you get from being around them?
The way to know if you truly love them, is how you react and deal with the hard
times. Do you still treat them with kindness and respect? Do you still serve them
and talk to them? Do you make attempts to right wrongs and see eye-to-eye?
I didn’t quote any lyrics or mention anything from the song, which might make
you think I didn’t explain the song at all. I did, I swear. I simply expounded on
the themes and thoughts that inspired the song. There’s your peak behind the
curtain. It was more of a long gaze, but I’m fine with it. I hope you are too.